Loving Your Husband: Appreciate Him.

Your husband will know you love him when you show appreciation for all he does and is. 

Edmund Leighton, Godspeed,1900

A loving wife focuses on appreciating and rewarding the good things her husband does and the attempts he’s making at giving her a good life. . His male ego needs that. A man needs to feel respected and rewarded for his work and accomplishments. You, dear lady, are the one who’s approval he wants the most.  So give it to him.  Find something positive he’s doing and praise him for it. 

Define “appreciate”.

Appreciate

1. to grasp the nature, worth, quality, or significance of

2. to value or admire highly

3. To recognize with gratitude

Synonyms: value, respect, prize, cherish, treasure, admire

Examples:

• We really appreciate the extra effort you are making.

• Your support is greatly appreciated.

• I appreciate you and I’m so thankful for you in my life!

How to show appreciation?

Appreciate him. Tell him! Actively thank him, show gratitude and contentment.  You can do this in so many ways:

• Write him a note of appreciation or thanks.

• “I appreciate that you work so hard for our family.”

• Tell him several times a day what positive traits you see in him.

• “You are so good looking.” 

• I love the way you talk to your children.”

• Thank him immediately anytime he does something for your or the children.

• “Thank you for taking us to church this morning.”

• “Thank you for taking out the trash for me (then give him a big hug)”

Our men do so much for us.  And really all they want is some recognition and appreciation. 

It’s also good to show appreciation through actions.  

• Have something good to eat… a hot, delicious dinner ready.

• Be loving and kind and cozy to him. Again, give hugs, smiles and kisses.

• Give him some time in the evenings to unwind and do some things he enjoys.

• Go to bed at the same time. 

• Be ready for intimacy, if at all possible.

• Keeping the house nice, tidy, and clean is another great way to show appreciation, especially the bedroom.  Make it your lovely, romantic sanctuary.

• Just try some different things to show your love and appreciation.  My wonderful husband loves it when I iron his shirts, and says it always makes him feel like the most special man in the world. 

Let’s turn up the love!

I love and appreciate y’all!

~Amy Laurie

Woman Ironing, Edgar Degas

Reading/Journaling

Read through the Psalms.  Many of them are written to God in appreciation for all He does for us and all He is.  We can be inspired to show appreciation to others as an extension of our thanks to God.  Look for things in others that you can thank them for. 

Habits/Systems

1 - Appreciation is a key aspect of respect so I’m asking you to commit to thanking him for the good things he does (and is).  Write them down in your journal (try to notice at least 2 things a day), then just thank him verbally.  Before you go to bed at night, thank him for something he’s done for you that day, or something special you love about him. 

2 - Choose some things you can do for your husband that show your appreciation.